My Dream Girl

I used to see you in my dreams, so beautifully crafted by the creator just for me. More than a lover, a friend I could turn to when I felt that there's no hope for me and my faith was at its weakest point. Just to hear your sweet soft voice tell that it would be ok and not give up.  To fall into the warm fluid pools of lucid pleasure in your eyes.  How I yearn to taste the sweetness of your lips tasting as sweet as fresh strawberry on a hot day at the beach. Of how I desire to feel   the firm softness of your breast and gently kiss your nipples.  My heart beats for the day you  come to me and I can rub warm oil over your body and release  all the tension and passion we have suppressed for so long  Until then I will wait and bide my time until fait has deemed me worthy enough to have you, until then my love.

The worm

BEWARE THE WORM IN THE APPLE

In this day and time wee see and experience many harsh realities of life and we will deal with people who may truly not be very supportive of us. So it becomes vital that you show that you are a mature, responsible person by performing acts of responsibility with integrity and purpose. Making excuses or passing the buck on to others does not give the impression that you are accountable and can be trusted. Being supportive does. It show's you care enough to get involved and to take some positive action that will make a difference.

Just because you may feel that others are not polite or courteous does not mean you should not be respectful to others; rather than becoming rude and antagonistic you should strive for mutual respect for one another. You may not need to give in to accomplice this. One should strive to separate personalities from the problem and focus on what is in the best interest for each and not the “status” of the individuals involved. Try to attack the problem not the other person, this can be very difficult because of our natural instinct is to defend when we feel threatened, but using an objective standard can be much more fulfilling.

For others to be worthy of your trust you must feel their motives are pure, not selfish, devious or partisan. When put to the test will they respond reasonable? Viewing other as trustworthy means you are willing to take risk and be vulnerable. This is a vital dimension of productive social interaction. The three characteristics of the other person should. Ability, benevolence and integrity. These are are a major portion of trustworthiness.

Ability is a group of skill and experiences that show competencies to perform a task. Benevolence is wanting good things for the partnership and all that is involved and integrity is the observation that the other person adheres to a set of principles that are acceptable and honored to best seek justice.

When you are just you believe in treating others fairly and you strive to be impartial and to restrain personal biases. To show due appreciation and advocate appropriate consequences. Justice is based on appropriate measure and responses with actions. These are subjective ideas and you will always hear persons saying “life isn't fair”. But when people see you performing justice and act accordingly you will build a base of positive influence and others will trust you.

make the change self assessment

                                                  

SELF ASSESSMENT TOOL

You will need some materials to work with so gather a few good writing pens, a notebook a ruler and some correction fluid for mistakes, everybody makes them or maybe use your computer. The most important thing is for you to be objective and honest about the question you ask and the way you answer them, if you don't be completely honest you will only be lying to yourself and you may not get the desired results you seek.

What do you you want ?; you may think this is a given but so meany people run into problem because they do not have a clear decisive idea of what they really want to acquire or accomplish so your first and foremost purpose is to decide what do you want. It is always good to have some flexibility in the way you do things but there must be concrete goal and or end game you want to attain, other wise you will end up like a fish out of water.

What are you looking for?; ask yourself what “am I looking for in... “, this can be very complicated, start by asking what am I looking to do with my life, who am I trying to please, am I trying to gain acceptance, respect, adulation from family, friends or coworker or am I doing this for myself? Am I looking for independence, or am I just following a trend?

Next, determine which type of personality do you posses. A type “a” person may exhibit such as competitive, outgoing, ambitious, impatient, or aggressive; while a type”B” personality will be more relaxed. This doesn't mean that one is better than the other but if you are aware you maybe able to adjust you thinking to overcome obstacles that will arise, and they will arise for that is the nature of all things.

This is very important, you will need to determine how much time you are willing to implement to your endeavor. Since time is the one asset that nobody has in abundance do not take this lightly. You need to establish tangible time frames for things to get done, and as you see yourself meeting these deadline your confidence will grow.

The next step is to get out your pen and paper and make to columns, at the top of the one on the left you may call it “my strengths” at the top of the one on the right label it “my weakness's”, this tool is to be known as the pros & cons of your character. The object of this exercise is for you to visibly recognize and acknowledge your strengths and weakness's so you can accentuate the positive and correct the negative by using corrective measures.

Being objective and taking this type of inventory of your character and ability's will also help you to figure out what you are willing to give up to achieve you goal because there are no free ride and free lunch's, you will have to give up something and make sacrifices if you are to move forward, this is inevitable. But armed with this knowledge you will have a good starting point of what you will need to give up. Another consideration is what do you stand to gain from success? There is nothing worse than to acquire success and then have that prosperity turn into a curse and devour you, to have it consume your very essence and then you find all you live for is the “thing” not the joy and freedom that it's acquisition should bring you so decide what do you want from success.

What if I fail? Should I have a backup plan? Ok so you may fail, but just like anything else in life you get up dust yourself off and get right back in there, it is natural to fail this is why your doing all this planning and homework now to minimize your failure but you will fail but the key is to learn from you failures and make adjustments. Almost all successful people fail time and time again but they

keep trying until they get it right. Yes, you should always have a plan “B”, I love this old saying , “Victory loves preparation”. So make plan's and prepare for anything you can imagine, can't hurt.

The purpose of this is to figure out what else you can learn and how can I grow from this knowledge. Always relish the opportunities to expand your thinking, strive to make a difference so you may have an effect on someone else as well as change your own circumstances so that life will have intrinsic meaning beyond the time you spend here

My last point I would like to make is how determined are you to do what it takes for you to achieve your objective? make a decision and stick by this decision no matter what happens, nobody like a wishy washy person so take a deep breath, take aim and fire. Good luck.

Make Tthe Change "Know yourself"

     

                                                                                         

Who are you? No the question is not about where you were born or who your parents or grandparents are, or where you were brought up or what school you went to the question is much deeper than that. I heard this saying once and it goes like this “ It's not who I am underneath It's what I do that defines me”. Put simple it is not where i was born or what family I belong to it is what I do that give my life purpose me.

 

My life, the choices I make that will determine what kind of person I become. Agreed our environment

plays a big part of our destiny but after a certain time in life you are handed the rein’s of your life and

you make the choice that will guide you on your path. A path that will leads you up the road to success

or down the road to destruction. In order to obtain any personal growth a person should practice being totally honest with there self because only in this way will you achieve true results that will bring a relevant change. Many people lie to themselves then they wonder why nothing changes, why they cant lose weight or why they cant finish a task, the problem is that their foundation is unstable and they are doomed to fail before they even start. So honesty is the best policy and a self assessment the best place to start. My point is, we all have philosophy's that we use in our day to day choice's, which we use to determine action's which cause's result. So in using the self-assessment tool the goal is to improve redefine or adjust your philosophy that will bring the desired result. Also a good thing to remember is that many time's you cant change the circumstance of a given situation or problem, but you can control yourself and the way you react or act to a problem and this starts with your mental state, you philosophy's your morals and ethics. These tool are not set in stone but just a few that can be used to point a person to the path of self accomplishment. Also you must realize that knowing which path to take is much different than actually walking it. Knowledge only has power when the instruction is put to some useful purpose to perform a needed task.

 

Therefor you must recognize that what matters is not what you should have done but what you do now that makes the difference and the best was to make effective change is to identify the problems or short comings, this will take some tools. When my uncle was teaching me how to do some minor repairs to my car when I was younger he would always tell me the right tool for the right job, so I think the right tool for us to begin our character tune-up should be the “Self Assessment tool “ . There are all kinds of self assessment tool out there but the one I am going to give you is for the sole purpose of the the individual to decided where they are in life, where they want to be in life and help you figure ways to get there. It is up to you and no one else. Remember this you can't always change the situation's you will face or peoples attitudes or even human nature but you can control the way you react to it thereby having a hand on the wheel of your destiny.

EPIPHANY

“He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.” Lao Tzu

MY EPIPHANY

According to the Buddhist, there is a thing called "The beginners mind", in this concept you should assume nothing and with humility and inquiry look for the most meaning and importance in the smallest thing. When I was around eight years old and I had made myself a slingshot and i wanted to test it out, but i didn't want to break anything and have my mother kill me so I got up early in the morning and went to the park a couple of blocks from my house. Everybody was still asleep that's how early it was plus it was the weekend and the sun was just coming up, the dew was still on the ground, now that I think about it, it was a perfect Indian summer morning, anyway I am ready to test my new home made device so I find a pretty good size bottle and set it on top of a tunnel thing that kids play in, this is a park in a major inner city so there is some litter around, definitely not Mayburry RFD. So I set it up and moved away about ten to twelve feet,Then I find a smooth oval shaped rock just shy of the size of a penny, then for some reason I said to myself , "The smallest stone can shatter the biggest bottle", I take aim and fire and hit it dead center. I swear at the time at it seemed to be happening in slow motion, the bottle exploded into million pieces, I couldn't believe it. That was a moment of enlightenment that I will never forget. A detail of how the smallest of things can change the greater of things with the right circumstances.

Have you ever see a newborn baby jump out of the mothers arms and start doing lap around the neighborhood? I don't think you have if so get pictures and call Ripley, anyway just as a baby must become secure and confident like crawling then standing and falling then one step and fall get up another step and fall, they hold on to furniture and take steps then finally they find their balance and faith and start to walk and run. This same concept run true in most of my research. Very, very few can jump in with both feet into any situation with help and training and succeed. That why I want to share with you some of the principals I have studied and still work with because they have at some point or another help me, but every one is different you know, but we are similar to a degree right? Hmmmmmmmmmmm.

THE MUSTARD SEED

THE MUSTARD SEED

In the The new Testament of the bible ( ) we are told by Jesus Christ that the faith of a mustard can move mountains and that if we have the faith of a grain of seed () we will be able to tell the mountains in our life to be thrown into the sea and they will obey that if we have faith we will be able to cast out spirits and cause the lame to walk and the blind to see but it all starts with that minute bit of faith. First I want to say that faith is the substance of things hope for and the evidence of things not seen meaning that you have such a strong belief that God himself will honor you faith, but if you don’t have the mustered seed of faith all that is for nothing so lets look at the mustered seed itself.

Many cannot forgive themselves for the way they live or the things they may have done in the past to themselves or other therefor they cannot truly release the love that we all have inside of us. I believe that the mustered seed is love and if we cannot forgive our self for mistake than we cannot release our love, because we all no if you don’t love yourself you cant love anyone else, you may pretend but the truth will come eventual,so not loving one self means we cannot completely release our faith unto God. The word says If we trust in him he is faithful to forgive our sins( ). So the bottom line is this you have to first forgive your self, then you can start to love your self, then you release what ever it is to God and be patient In faith and he will honor your prayers. I believe this is the secret of the mustered seed.